Death Visits Again
I have a story for you.
A girl who is adopted finally decides, after 32 years, that she wants to know who her birth mother is. She finally decides to put her ghosts away and move forward. She deals with her immature and over-bearing adopted mother's attitude of betrayal and control issues. She deals with the uncertainty of meeting a woman who gave her up. She found her birth mother a little over a year ago. Her birth mother lives in Colorado. They have seen each other twice. Now this girl is on a plane to Colorado to watch her real mother die. Real mother has cancer, really bad cancer, and in a short month has gone from diagnosis to death bed. Being the only blood relative around, this girl will have to decide when to take her birth mother off the machines and let her go. She will have to arrange the cremation. She will have to deal with all the questions and loose ends a death provides. I wish I could tell you this was the ABC Story of the Month, but it's not. It's my best friend Alissa's story and it sucks.
The birth mother is not close to her family back in St. Louis. Now my friend will be the one to answer questions, should there be any, from a family who didn't give a shit and she's never met. She has to be the sole support for her real mother's boyfriend. She has to decide, well, everything. Alissa's boyfriend is staying home with the kid, Alissa is alone and it breaks my heart. She is dealing with a lot right now and I wish there was some way I could help.
All we can do is wait for her to get back and lavish her with love and support.
A girl who is adopted finally decides, after 32 years, that she wants to know who her birth mother is. She finally decides to put her ghosts away and move forward. She deals with her immature and over-bearing adopted mother's attitude of betrayal and control issues. She deals with the uncertainty of meeting a woman who gave her up. She found her birth mother a little over a year ago. Her birth mother lives in Colorado. They have seen each other twice. Now this girl is on a plane to Colorado to watch her real mother die. Real mother has cancer, really bad cancer, and in a short month has gone from diagnosis to death bed. Being the only blood relative around, this girl will have to decide when to take her birth mother off the machines and let her go. She will have to arrange the cremation. She will have to deal with all the questions and loose ends a death provides. I wish I could tell you this was the ABC Story of the Month, but it's not. It's my best friend Alissa's story and it sucks.
The birth mother is not close to her family back in St. Louis. Now my friend will be the one to answer questions, should there be any, from a family who didn't give a shit and she's never met. She has to be the sole support for her real mother's boyfriend. She has to decide, well, everything. Alissa's boyfriend is staying home with the kid, Alissa is alone and it breaks my heart. She is dealing with a lot right now and I wish there was some way I could help.
All we can do is wait for her to get back and lavish her with love and support.
posted by Barbarian02003 | Monday, March 20, 2006
2 Comments:
I'm so sorry to hear about Allysa (i think i just spelled her name wrong - sorry) Thats terrible.
Families can turn out to be really crappy.
My mother-in-law works for a service where they do stuff for elderly folks (mainly), help clean the house, take them on errands, etc.
She has one client who's daughter called and asked her to cook a turkey for Thanksgiving, came over, picked it up, and left her mother by herself. It's sad how families can turn out. Having these people you are related to and being alone like her or your friend.
Ugh! That's cold.
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